Why Words Matter
Language is one of the ways we show respect, and the LGBTQIA2S+ acronym is a living example. Each letter represents real people and real experiences.
At Pomona Valley Pride, we use language that uplifts and includes. This guide helps anyone, students, parents, and allies, understand what the acronym stands for and how it reflects our shared commitment to belonging and dignity. When we understand the language of identity, we make space for everyone to be seen.
A Brief History of the Acronym
The acronym began as LGB in the 1970s, naming lesbian, gay, and bisexual people during the fight for recognition and equality. As understanding expanded, more letters were added to include those previously left out, T for transgender, Q for queer or questioning, I for intersex, A for asexual, 2S for Two-Spirit, and finally “+” to acknowledge identities beyond any fixed list. The goal isn’t to memorize every letter; it’s to honor human diversity.
What Each Letter Represents
Each identity adds an essential thread to the larger tapestry of the LGBTQIA2S+ community.
- L = Lesbian: Women who love women.
- G = Gay: Often used broadly, but most often refers to men who love men.
- B = Bisexual: People attracted to more than one gender.
- T = Transgender: Individuals whose gender identity differs from their assigned sex at birth.
- Q = Queer or Questioning: A reclaimed word celebrating fluidity and exploration beyond binaries.
- I = Intersex: People born with physical or genetic traits that don’t fit traditional definitions of male or female.
- A = Asexual: People who experience little or no sexual attraction but often form deep emotional bonds.
- 2S = Two-Spirit: A sacred identity in some Indigenous cultures representing a balance of masculine and feminine spirit.
- + = Plus: Everyone else who doesn’t see themselves listed but still belongs, pansexual, nonbinary, demisexual, agender, gender-fluid, and more.
Each of these identities is valid, natural, and deserving of respect.
Tip: When you’re unsure about someone’s identity or pronouns, ask politely and listen with care.
Why Inclusive Language Matters
Using inclusive language isn’t “political correctness”, it’s connection. The words we choose shape how others feel: safe, respected, or invisible. Saying “partner” instead of assuming “boyfriend” or “girlfriend,” and asking for pronouns rather than guessing, shows that someone’s identity matters. Those small choices build trust in classrooms, workplaces, families, and right here in Pomona.
Common Misunderstandings (and How to Learn Respectfully)
It’s okay to have questions. What matters is how you ask them. Here are a few common points of confusion:
Q: Why are there so many letters?
A: Our understanding of gender and sexuality keeps growing. Each letter represents lives that once went unseen.
Q: Is it okay to say ‘queer’?
A: Many people embrace it with pride. Because it was once used as a slur, let individuals decide if they’re comfortable with it.
Q: What if I make a mistake?
A: Just apologize briefly, correct yourself, and move on. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s respect.
Learning is part of allyship. Every time you ask, listen, or adapt, you’re helping create a more inclusive world.
How to Be a Supportive Ally Through Language
You don’t need to be an expert to be respectful. Try these simple habits in your daily interactions:
- Ask, don’t assume. Gender, pronouns, and orientation can’t be known by appearance.
- Use “they/them” until you know someone’s pronouns. It’s a simple way to avoid misgendering.
- Avoid outdated terms like “transsexual” or “hermaphrodite”, these are no longer appropriate.
- Stay open to change. Language evolves, and that’s a good thing. It means more people are being included.
Local Connection: Learn With Pomona Valley Pride
Here in Pomona and across the Inland Empire, Pomona Valley Pride makes learning about gender and sexuality welcoming for everyone through community workshops, youth programs, and advocacy events, learning through conversation, not confrontation.
Whether you’re a teacher, a parent, or a local business striving for inclusion, we’re here to help you grow with compassion. You can find more support by exploring our local resources and programs.
Closing: Language as Love
The LGBTQIA2S+ acronym isn’t about complexity, it’s about care. Each letter reminds us there’s no single way to be human, and that’s worth celebrating. Every time we use inclusive language, we’re saying: You belong. You matter. You’re part of this community.
Keep Learning, Keep Growing
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